Firstly, this is NOT a story about feeling miserable about being Asian while going through life with stereotypes, racism, and having the victim mentality (NOT a real victim). This is far from feeling sorry for oneself or other fellow Asians. It’s a message about conflict, change, growth, and empowerment. So, let’s get started.
Throughout history and contemporary times, Asians have become the highest rate in America to be more likely than any other racial/cultural groups to be victims and survivors of abuse and bullying perpetuated from their peers. In my own experiences and of many others, we have noticed that internalized and externalized prejudice about Asians has been prevalent in both the U.S.A. and Canada. Even positive stereotypes and generalizations can be malicious due to lack of understanding, personalizing, and humanizing people on an independent case by case basis.
That has to all change for the better through holistic approaches to achieve progress while going through a selective and diverse journey to succeed and lead towards empowering not only ourselves that go through discrimination but every single one of us since we’re ALL HUMAN. Discussions and Actions for Growth must be congruent and established through our consciousness of self or also known as: The Discipline of Self-Awareness!
Fellow Asians! Take Charge and Be in Control of Your Own Lives rather than complying with society and media to allow them to dehumanize and degrade us. Fight The Good Fight! The Bad, The Ugly, and The Evil may win the battle, however,
We win the war against evil by decisions we make for ourselves whether our empowering actions are unconsciously or consciously committed.
Us, Asians, aren’t exactly positively both historically and contemporarily represented well in the mainstream media of the Western world, especially in the department for being a prospect of dating or relationship material. The latest Oscars have shown that there’s clear lack of diversity within the media/entertainment industry and in rewards ceremonies.
These are many of the following [whether good or bad] ridiculous comments we hear again and again and continuously throughout our lives from the general public:
Asians are physically small [this racial slur is worse for fellow, Asian Men] which sub communicates the label of being weak and submissive and sexually incompetent and incompatible.
Asians eat dogs [Misinformed Assumptions that everybody does the same thing, lack of cultural education due to ignorance and sometimes, arrogance]
Asian Women are Submissive [Media portrays them as dehumanized beings- i.e. sex objects]
Asian Men have small penises [implies that AM are sexually weak and unconfident based on generalizations and presumptions]
Asians are good at math, are computer geeks, nerds, good at video games, knows martial arts and self-defense, are well educated, socially awkward, rich, don’t like nor date non-Asian people.
Asians are always indifferent also known as poker faced (non-expressive).
Asians always look furious.
Logical Reasoning: Flawed vs. Factual
It’s understandable that assumptions are innately within us to a certain degree. However, there are two types of assumptions: 1. Misinformed Assumptions [without any existing legitimate and supporting evidence] which results with conjecture and 2. Educated Guesses or Informative Assumptions [With prior insightful knowledge to support a premise and a conclusion] thus resulting in a factual premise and sometimes conclusive outcome. In order for deductive [general to specific premises/conclusions] reasoning to work effectively, there must be complete solid evidence to support a premise and conclusion. Same applies to inductive [specific to general] reasoning to a certain degree.
Example of Deductive Reasoning:
A is B
B is C
Therefore, A is C.
Human Nature’s Irrationality and Need to be Ignorant
Generalizations form because as human beings we like to know things even when we don’t and they may be heavily flawed due to our Ego and having the explanations comforts us rather than suffering from the fear of the unknown even if we’re wrong and arrogant. No wonder the saying, “Ignorance is bliss.” exists. With that being said, I respectfully disagree with the argument that unconventional yet effective wisdom is Bliss.
Higher Purpose, Meaning, Education, Altruism and Free of Judgment
In a well developed world and if one’s provided with the resources for education and learning, there’s no excuse to be ignorant, generalizing, and stereotyping people with labels and misleading information despite irrationality to be part of human nature. Through nurture, high value and intelligent individuals put themselves on a higher purpose and makes themselves accountable for their actions while helping others evolve too.
WE’RE HUMAN, NOT OBJECTS!!
As an Asian and more importantly as a human being, all those comments are intellectually absurd. NOT everybody is the same. In the world, everybody and anybody in any world and everywhere, there are apples, oranges, mangos, bananas, strawberries, blueberries, and watermelons.
Here’s two books on the Myth of The Model Minority: Asian Americans Facing Racism (First and Second Editions) and Asian American Sexual Politics: The Construction of Race, Gender, and Sexuality. http://rosalindschou.weebly.com/publications.html