My Published Articles on The Good Men Project, Online Magazine

GMPMy Biography and Published Works!

Be sure to check out and share my first published article called The Journey of My Cultural Identity with The Good Men Project!

Here’s my second article about the personal growth, relationships, and life coaching universe regarding those involved; The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly! Learn, Develop, and Strengthen Emotional Awareness and Social Intelligence as a skill to enhance one’s leadership abilities throughout diverse parts of his or her’s life wherever people are involved. Utilize your best self and have fulfilling relationships with your families, relatives, friends, colleagues, associates, co-workers, loved ones and others.

Malicious intent and bullying turned Luke Park into a champion of social justice and relationship coaching.

“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” –Ernest Hemingway

Stay tuned for future published articles on The Good Men Project and here on my Word Press! 🙂

“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face…We must do that which we think we cannot.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

Recommended Sources to Read and Observe for Personal Growth, Emotional Awareness and Social Intelligence

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The following lists are sources I’ve read or observed and are in standard high value to improve one’s Skills, Perspectives, and Long-term Experiences in Personal Growth, Emotional Awareness (Facial Expressions- Micro, Macro, Mask, False), Social and Communication Skills, and have a continuously evolved understanding of what makes us, humans, us, why and how so. More importantly, to lead and succeed in diverse areas of life and relationships, one must have a confident, firm, authentic belief system and apply the knowledge and wisdom that’s provided by professionals through their services.

The List of Recommended Sources:

Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t by Michael J. Losier (Author of Law of Connection)

Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell (his other books such as The Tipping Point and Blink are great reads well)

The Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan and Barbara Pease

The Alabaster Girl by Zan Perrion (Ars Amorata- The Art of Love)

The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick Up Artists by Neil Strauss which is a memoir (Check out Rules of The Game as it’s a practical exercise manual too)

The Art of War by Sun Tzu

Leadership: Theory, Application, & Skill Development by Robert N. Lussier and Christopher F. Achua

Persuasion: Social Influence and Compliance Gaining by Robert H. Gass and John S. Seiter

Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence by Daniel Goleman

Models: Attract Women through Honesty- Mark Manson

All of Dr. Paul Ekman’s Books and Recommendations He’s the leading and most creditable psychologist on deception, emotions, nonverbal communication and more.

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Liespotting by Pamela Meyer

The Compass of Zen by Zen Master, Seung Sahn and Foreword by Stephen Mitchell

Split-Second Persuasion by Keven Dutton

Webs of Influence: The Psychology of Online Persuasion by Nathalie Nahai, The Web Psychologist

Hot Sex Tips, Tricks, and Licks by Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Speaker, Author, TV Personality and Sexologist

First Date Formula by Ben J and JT Tran, I Did It My Way by Jt Tran, Online Dating for Asian Men by JT Tran and Alice Zindagi http://www, and (Applicable to all races and cultures)

50 Powerful Date Ideas by Jordan Gray (Author of 7 Relationship Mistakes)

Social Man Project by Myke Macapinlac

Online Magazine of Good Men Project by Every Day People and Professionals, Writers and Editors

Men’s Health Magazine

Ask Men

Style Life by Neil Strauss (Style)

Venusian Arts by Erik James Horvat-Markovic (Erik von Markovic or Mystery) Watch his show, VH1 The Pick Up Artist Season 1 and 2. Get Hola Unblocker App. (internet use outside country of origin) if required.

Ethical Pickup by Crew Spence

Doctor Nerd Love

Attraction Explained by Adam Lyons

Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo

Anthony Robbins

Art of Manliness

The Art of Charm by Jordan Harbinger and AJ Harbinger

Social Engineering by Chris Hadnagy and Check out books: Social Engineering: The Art of Human Hacking and Unmasking the Social Engineer: The Human Element of Security

Seduction Sirens by Arden Leigh

Dating Advice (Seek Advice, Not an online dating service)

Dating Skills Review: Men’s Source for Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice

Science of Relationships

Kissing Outside The Lines by Diane Farr

Female Dating Expert for Men, Kezia Noble

Wing Girl Method by Marni Kinrys

Ted Talks

Authentic Man Program

Charismatic Arts

Comments of Neil Strauss Interview

Interview with Neil Strauss, Journalist and PUA

Pickup Advice for Shy Guys

Ethical Pickup

Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them by Betsy Prioleau [or Elizabeth Stevens Prioleau]

Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex and How to Get It by Marty Klein

Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover The Power of Intimacy by Ken Page

If you have any other suggestions to add, leave a message underneath this post in the comments below and I’ll check them out.

Society focuses too much on the differences of men and women aka the battle between the sexes. As an individual whose done more than a fair amount of research into attraction, seduction, relationships, dating, courtship, pick up, emotional awareness, social engineering, psychology, social dynamics, social justice and social intelligence, I can tell you with absolute assurance that men and women are more alike even when we don’t realize it. Yes, sure, genders are different physically and the way they perceive things and so forth. However, what we fundamentally need and desire are the same underneath all the surfaces and verbal communication. Universally, people of high value and quality, desire deeper connections, personality, energy, character, similarities, differences, cultural diversity, acceptance, love, passion, morals/ethics, principles, determination, experiences, challenges, leading lifestyles, mental/emotional/sexual/spiritual/religious/social compatibilities. Not all of them may apply. Case by case may be different although all those are the foundations to human connections and intimacy.

Treat Others the way you treat yourself, families, relatives, friends, co-workers, colleagues, associates, and so forth. We’re all human that want to connect deeply.


The Eightfold Path of Attraction and Social Confidence

The Eightfold Path are 8 Principles of  Buddhism to Enlightenment and Awareness

Mind over Matter. If anything, The Mind comes first and then techniques come last.

These Principles can be applied to leadership, attraction, seduction, social interactions (romantic, sexual, platonic, professional intentions), confidence, inner peace, and building one’s own personal, professional and social growth in the mind and of an individual’s lifestyle.

1. Right View: Having the right understand and moral/ethical perspectives of oneself and others both internally and externally. Right View means holding no view and having no idea (being open-minded). Put down all your thinking, opinions, and see this world exactly as it is. Realize that we’re all human and wanting to connect with ourselves and others deeply. Also, think about why you do want or need something? Reflect on your authentic, genuine, honest, sincere motivations and aspirations.

2. Right Thought: We all have our opinions, thoughts, biases, perspectives, experiences, emotions and are often very attached to them. We have strong dislikes and likes. We are also attached to our condition and situation. “I’m a woman.”, “I’m a man.”, etc. When we hold onto these conditions, we can’t completely connect with this world and all the human beings. We only see this small “I, my, me” world we have made, and we can’t help others. (Refer to Ego Suspension as a one of the Build Rapport Principles to get more detail on it). Right Thought means not becoming attached to any views, not holding our opinion, condition, and situation, and only keeping a before-thinking mind that spontaneously wants to help all beings. Think less, Use Unattached Emotions. Your before-thinking mind is your substance; my before-thinking mind is my substance. Then your substance, my substance, and this whole universe’s substance are the same substance. However, that point is before thinking. If you attain that before-thinking mind, your mind is clear like space. Then you perceive that you are the same as all beings, and true thinking can appear by itself. You no longer harbor thoughts of selfish desire, ill will or malice. The name for this is wisdom.

3. Right Speech: Many people are attached to their tongue. This tongue is very fascinating. We have two eyes, two ears, and two nostrils. Why do we only have one mouth and one tongue? This mouth has a very big job! It’s always eating and talking, nonstop. It always desires some good feeling- from food, drink or from the pleasure of making lots and lots of speech. Most of our strongest attachments come from the desires of this tongue. Not so many attachments come from our ears, nostrils or eyes. Perhaps, if we have another mouth and tongue, our life would be much easier, because then this one month and tongue wouldn’t feel they always have to do so many things all the time. However, this tongue already causes many, many problems for this world, so we’re lucky not to have another one. In fact, one could say that, of our five primary senses (eyes, ears, nose, tongue, and sense of touch), when we’re not careful this tongue causes the most suffering for ourselves and for this world. Control this tongue and all its desires. In Zen, “The tongue has no bone.” This is because what one says and does (actions) aren’t congruent.

4. Right Action: Talk is Cheap. Action is Quality and of Value. Use the tongue to help others with clear, compassionate, leadership quality, confident, charismatic speech. Action comes from our mind and returns to our mind. Whatever one does in the world is a reflection of our thinking. This is sometimes called the path of precepts. He taught that we shouldn’t take any life to produce heedlessness. Whenever we do something, if we are thinking, that action becomes Karma. We create a kind of mental habit for that action. If we don’t do good things, we naturally make bad Karma. However, if we only try to do good things for other people, then we make Bodhisattva Karma. This is action that only tries to serve other people. Right Action means always being aware of how our actions affect other beings, because that also affects our mind. This is why Right Action is sometimes, interpreted as Right Karma.

5. Right Livelihood (Lifestyle and Objectives: Everybody has two jobs, goals, objectives in life. Our inside work is keeping clear mind. Our outside work is cutting off selfish desires and helping others. Saying this is one thing, yet how do we actually do it? We have jobs. Some person’s job is to go and work in an office to make money; another person’s job is to live in a temple and teach other people. However, how does this outside job help other beings? Is this work done only for me, only for my family, or for all beings? It’s certainly true that in this world, everyone has to make money. However, many people’s work entails killing many animals, or polluting the air and water. This is not so good. Selling alcohol, drugs, explosives, or guns to other people only makes more and more bad Karma. It can’t help this world at all. Even if one is doing this to make money to help their family, in the end one will only add suffering to this world, just in order to get money. Be careful: in this world, cause and effect are always very, very! So, Buddha taught that we must have jobs that don’t hurt this world. As I said before, the most important thing is, Why Do this or that? If you ask this question, then your Right Livelihood becomes very clear.

6. Right Effort (Energy): Always trying hard in your meditation and spiritual practices. Sick or healthy, busy or free, tired or rested, it doesn’t matter. Only try, try, try, nonstop! Only do it. That’s all!

7. Right Mindfulness (Presence): How do you keep your mind, right now? Just as a ray continues out from one point to another to make a straight line, how you keep your mind in this very moment makes your whole life. Many people only follow their thinking, their desire, anger, and ignorance. So, they get suffering in situations after situations. However, if one wakes up right now, one gets happiness. Which one do you like? Happiness is a choice. It’s a decision that one makes internally to better their presence, their present and future. The name for this “wake up” is sometimes called paying attention. The Buddha called it the Right Mindfulness.

8. Right Meditation (Clarity): Correct Meditation is the most important thing that one can do to wake up, be enlightened and aware. Right Meditation means from moment to moment keeping a not-moving mind. In any situation and any condition, keep a mind that’s clear like space, yet that functions as meticulously as the tip of a needle. Some people think the point of meditation is just to experience some kind of “peace mind”. They only like stillness and quiet. Finding quiet in the quiet isn’t true quiet. Quiet in the noisy is true quiet. Yes, having a quiet place to meditate is desirable. However, we shouldn’t become attached to a quiet experience alone, because life isn’t always like this. If your mind isn’t moving, then even the loudest and busiest areas are beautifully Zen. There are also people who think that correct meditation just has to do with doing very had sitting meditation practice. However, doing this alone isn’t complete meditation practice. This kind of thinking is attachment to body-sitting. True Meditation means correct mind-sitting: regardless of condition or situation, how do you keep your mind, right now? That makes your life. If your mind is clear, the whole universe is clear. If your mind isn’t clear, the whole universe isn’t clear. That’s a very important premise. So doing strong meditation is important. Having a good sitting practice is very, very important. On the other hand, the most important point of all this is cutting off all attachment to thinking and returning to your before-thinking mind. “What am I? Only don’t know…” Can you do that in every condition and situation, off the cushion as well as on it? If you can do this while driving, that’s driving meditation. If you do it while eating, that’s eating meditation. If you can do it while cleaning your house, that’s working meditation. **Apply meditation to the relationship with yourself and others.**

True Meditation and Spiritual Practices means keeping a great question: only, “What or Whom Am I?”

It’s good to control your breathing. Breathe in slowly and breathe out slowly. Your exhalation should be a little more than twice as long as the inhalation. If you breathe in and out very slowly, one can more easily cut off all thinking and not be attached to the coming and going of your mind. Over time, your energy comes down, down, down into your central core, and you can better control your feelings and emotions. Through all of this, however, it’s important to emphasize that true meditation isn’t bodily posture. It’s how one keeps their mind, from moment to moment, in the midst of any daily activity.

Source: The Compass of Zen- Zen Master Seung Sahn, Foreword by Stephen Mitchell

Applications: Applied Eightfold Path Models to the Human Mind, Completing Objectives, achieving leadership success, being socially confidence, developing personal growth through charisma.

Ethics and Morals: The Players in Personal Growth or Emotional Awareness and Social Intelligence- The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

Since the main premise of my WordPress, Website and Social Media Page (FB) are about the personal growth and self help movement and internal empowerment as one of the objectives to evolve, this post will talk about its problems (dark side) and alternative measures (change).


To discuss the Personal Growth or Dating/Relationship/Social Confidence [whatever one calls it] Coach Department (the good, the bad, and the ugly from different approaches of the systematic approach) due its recent epidemic of moral dilemmas over the almost last decade after the book was published, revealing this universe from underground to mainstream media and the world.

So, what, how, and why this part of Life Coaching became to be was initially to help others who lack emotional awareness, social intelligence (education), fulfillment in dating and relationships (romantic, sexual, platonic, professional, and other types) or already have those yet want more than that by providing them with evolved social skills, progressive principles/philosophies, fresh perspectives (motivation/inspiration) in diverse contexts with different people. Depending on who and what organization provides the services and goods through their modus operandi (method of operation) and their motives (reasoning), the genuine teachings still live on. Otherwise, there’s those that changed somewhere throughout the journey for the worse, not better or had ulterior motives (agenda[s]) to begin with through manipulation and superficiality for merely promiscuity, sex, misguided fetishes, greed, and money. Nature vs. Nurture in the regard that one improves internally, changes positively or let’s external negative factors consume their identity and individuality.

Nature vs. Nurture in the regard that one improves internally, changes positively or let’s external negative factors consume their identity and individuality.

Some selectively choose their advice whether the instructor is ultimately, the good, the bad, or the ugly as one can learn from everybody.

Bad, Ugly, Good

For Better or For Worse- Mentalities, Character, Beliefs

The Bad and The Ugly

Let’s begin with the bad and the ugly (dark side) in correlation with the types of mentalities that exist in those that initially had genuine reasons or began with those and continued towards that dark path. There’s those that believe to their very core that they have a sense of entitlement to fulfill their needs, desires, agenda despite the frame causing and affecting more harm than good. The Entitled believe a potential mate or people they interact with that one is attracted to is a consolation prize which then treats others on a pedestal and as an object through their verbal and nonverbal communication signals. Then there’s The Socially Deviant who take high risk, low reward by having the entitlement mentality through attempting creepy, deviant, and/or sometimes, potentially criminal behaviour. On the other hand, there’s those whom merely sit around a screen and have all the theories, tactics, strategies yet they don’t apply themselves and troll online/offline. Another example are those that have read or obtained knowledge on the science of attraction, such as: evolutionary biology, sexuality, social sciences, humanities, health sciences, etc. mix those fields with unsound/unproved theories and applications to the students that take their seminars. Ultimately, they mix in the lie with the truth or the truth with the misleading guidelines. What’s common too, is those that desire money and rather than teaching, they commit fraud and other deceptive behaviours behind the scenes.

Lesson: Don’t treat yourself and others as a Prize to Win. Embrace and Love Everybody including oneself.

The Golden Rule (Rule of Thumb): Treat Others with Respect, Honesty, Integrity, and Share High Social Value with Authenticity.

We’re all human beings that have the desire to connect with ourselves and others deeply whether that be physically (i.e. supporting health/wellness), emotionally (ex: sharing personal stories), mentally (connecting intellectually), and spiritually (empowering journey).

The Systematic Approaches and Good Individuals: Mindset, Character, Beliefs

As for the good, the systems and the communities can be good, bad, ugly or neutral unless they are in itself created and used for evil. Systems, Approaches, People in of itself and themselves that have created programs through ethics and morals do exist and prosper. Examples: Those that are Shy Boys/Girls, Good Guys/Girls, or Intellectuals/Educated Professionals that want and need to learn Social Confidence and Skills in Human Interactions. Also, includes those that have Social Anxiety and desire to try personal growth programs.

Results may vary.

Ultimately, The Good Guys and Girls Finish First! 😉

Academic Review

“As to the methods there may be a million and then some, but principles are few. The man who grasps principles can successfully select his own methods. The man who tries methods, ignoring principles, is sure to have trouble.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Check out the study conducted on this industry and its ethics by the University of Oxford, Department of Experimental Psychology. The Dating Mind: Evolutionary Psychology and the Emerging Science of Human Courtship 

Click to access EP10899909.pdf

“[Pick-up] is not inherently good or bad. It’s like a hammer. A hammer can be used to drive a nail into a piece of wood and build a beautiful house one day or it can be used to bust someone’s kneecap. It’s all about the ethics of how you use it.” -Arden Leigh

Using Deductive Reasoning for Concrete Knowledge and Sound Wisdom

In conclusion, the guidelines provided by such professionals to another can be used for good or bad depending on one’s incentives and actions. Thus, not everybody is the same. The actions of some ‘bad apples’ don’t reflect those that are really trying to make a difference in their own lives and others. To judge the good based on the events of the bad and ugly is intellectually and morally unsound.

Mind over Matter: What one perceives, one can achieve passionately!

With Great Influence comes Great Responsibility. 😉

Lessons to Achieve and Learn

Learn Emotional Awareness (Facial Expressions; Micro, Macro, False, Masked), Social Skills through Influence, Persuasion, Personality, Character, Charisma, The Arts and Sciences of Attraction, Social Dynamics, Seduction, Social Structures: Proxemics (Space and Body Positioning), Haptics (Touch), Kinesics (Physical Gestures and Body Movement), Vocalics ((Paralanguage), Chronemics (Structure and Use of Time in Nonverbal Communication) and so forth. In addition: Read, Learn, Practice, Evolve Intelligently with Effectiveness and Quality.

“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” -Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)